Our baby's name...
I've been wanting to post this for a LONG time, but I didn't want to until DF and I spoke with his parents. See, THEY wanted this child to be named a certain name. The same name as DF, DF's father and DF's grandfather. It's fine for them to HOPE that's what's gonna hapenn, but it's another thing to make a woman feel pressured into doing that. I am not ok with that. I helped create this child, I am carrying this child, and i've been through hell for this child (several hospital visits, cerclage surgery, aches and pains, internal exams every 2 weeks for the ENTIRE pregnancy, etc). I am entitled to have a say so in this childs name.
DF and I have discussed this over and over again in depth. After much discussion, we were able to come up with a name we BOTH love. We are well aware that his parents are gonna be upset when we tell them, but I can't let that stop us.
WE created this child. WE came up with a name for him. WE love the name...and WE are the ones who are the parents. So WE have the say-so.
DF has been delaying the discussion that we need to have with them about this. It's been quite a while now and it needs to be said. I know they can read every word I am writing but I can't deal with calling the baby "him" or "little guy" any longer. He has a name and it's not Andrew Paul.
This little boy's name is Vincent Chase. A name we both love and came up with together.
Anyway, if they aren't reading this now, they'll soon know our decision. Im sure they'll be mad, and possibly blame me for "MAKING" DF go along with it, but that's ok.
I've talked to my son's therapist about this numerous times and she too agree's that we are the parents, and we made the decisions. We've made a decision and that decision is to name him Vincent Chase (but we just call him Chase). She also said that grandparents (on either side of the family) have no right or place in choosing the childs name.
I wanna hurry up and tell DF's parents. I've been wanting to tell them for so darn long that it's been eating at me. He kept putting it off cause he knew it would upset his father, but that's just too bad. I don't wanna upset anyone, but this isn't about them. This is about US and OUR BABY.
Anyway, I just needed to get that off of my chest.
DF and I have discussed this over and over again in depth. After much discussion, we were able to come up with a name we BOTH love. We are well aware that his parents are gonna be upset when we tell them, but I can't let that stop us.
WE created this child. WE came up with a name for him. WE love the name...and WE are the ones who are the parents. So WE have the say-so.
DF has been delaying the discussion that we need to have with them about this. It's been quite a while now and it needs to be said. I know they can read every word I am writing but I can't deal with calling the baby "him" or "little guy" any longer. He has a name and it's not Andrew Paul.
This little boy's name is Vincent Chase. A name we both love and came up with together.
Anyway, if they aren't reading this now, they'll soon know our decision. Im sure they'll be mad, and possibly blame me for "MAKING" DF go along with it, but that's ok.
I've talked to my son's therapist about this numerous times and she too agree's that we are the parents, and we made the decisions. We've made a decision and that decision is to name him Vincent Chase (but we just call him Chase). She also said that grandparents (on either side of the family) have no right or place in choosing the childs name.
I wanna hurry up and tell DF's parents. I've been wanting to tell them for so darn long that it's been eating at me. He kept putting it off cause he knew it would upset his father, but that's just too bad. I don't wanna upset anyone, but this isn't about them. This is about US and OUR BABY.
Anyway, I just needed to get that off of my chest.
posted by Renee @ 4:03 PM
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